As I get older, I’ve noticed that politeness has gone out the window. As children we were taught manners and my husband and I carried on that tradition when we raised our own kids. Nothing unusual or special about that, right? But as our kids, especially our son, who is now in his early 30’s, got older, I can’t tell you how many times he’s told us about people who’ve remarked on his politeness. Something as simple as holding a door open for the person behind him, or saying may I please when ordering at a restaurant has had enough impact on friends and strangers they’ve actually commented on his politeness. When did showing consideration for others become the exception rather than the rule? When did treating people rudely become cool?
It’s sad to know that TV personalities like Simon Cowell made careers and their TV shows popular by treating people horribly. I also think social media is part of the problem. We spend way too much time staring at screens and not enough time engaging with each other. It is way easier to be rude to someone when they aren’t’ in front of you. Then after being inundated relentlessly with rude behavior we’ve become desensitized to it. I consider myself to be online fairly often, but my time is a drop in the bucket compared to the generations of people younger than me.
The other day I was out walking my dog and I came across a large sign posted in a yard. Evidently dogs have been relieving themselves in this yard and the pet owners haven’t stopped to pick up the waste. This understandably upset the homeowner. But their reaction to post a long rant IN ALL CAPITAL LETTERS to yell at everyone who walks past their yard seems to miss the mark in my estimation. Do they really think verbal abuse is going to get people to pick up after their dogs? I haven’t been past that yard since I saw the sign, but honestly, I wouldn’t be surprised if their snarky approach backfired on them. Haven’t they heard: what goes around comes around?
The thing is, people want and need to be treated nicely. We all know that! This is why politeness is so powerful. Luckily, like most things in life there is a yin and yang, a lightness to the darkness, and happily a politeness to the rudeness. This pertains to the media as well. People like Mike Rowe and Ellen DeGeneres are trying to move the needle in the right direction by shining a light on (and rewarding) people who are not only considerate and polite, but who are taking kindness to the next level. I applaud their efforts!
At A. Alliance we believe in the power of politeness. And how we treat people (consumers, clients and each other) is part of our mission statement Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and consideration. That’s how connections are made. Isn’t that what we all want, to connect with others?
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